2 Unpopular (But Not Really) Reasons On Why Women Feel Lost.

Ever wondered why the number of single women (and men) in their 20’s & 30’s it’s skyrocketing, and IT WILL keep on doing so in the near future? The root of the problem it’s not complicated by all means, instead it’s easily solvable but it NEEDS to be addressed. Let me explain:

“SLUT CULTURE”

One of the more prominent reasons of this single tendency it’s surely due to this “fake freedom” aimed to fill the void (generated by whatever reason) with hookups and short-lived relationships. Both Men & Women who do engage consistently in such behaviors are usually missing values, are hurt or do not find reasons to STICK with someone in the long run.

They’d rather fall prey to that feeble rush of dopamine and pleasure instead to look at the big picture.

This it’s even more notable on younger generations. So, little to no values AND personality = short lived relationships.

Sorry to break it to ya. (Not really)

LACK OF DIRECTION

This is something that MEN have to take full responsibility for.

While some of you ladies won’t admit it (The good and self-aware ladies will) Women love to be “directed”, to be given a path to follow, a world to fall into,

(And before you get triggered – this has nothing to do with being controlled or “equality” or being in a “lower position”, wake the f**k up and stop with that childish nonsense.)

If you’re ugly as her, that might be another reason why you’re single.

Women usually love a Man who can lead the way, someone to follow, who is strong and knows how to navigate life and take decisions.

But Women usually settle or won’t bother to find a man who can do all that BECAUSE THERE’S A LACK- of this kind of Men all around, Ambitionless men who wander the earth, ugh.

And end up in a relationship with a soft man or they rather not be in one at all.

BUT WHY IS THE SITUATION SO UGLY?

One of the causes is that society it’s trying to steer the wheel towards a “sexless” society.

Men are being feminized, while being weak it’s now the norm,

And that can’t be good, as humanity has thrived all these years because of distinction between male AND female.

Because we both have our strengths and weaknesses, and we’re at the best of our abilities when we join and support each other in a caring and solid way.

AND, IF YOU HAPPEN TO BE ONE OF THESE “WEAK MEN”, (OR WOMAN) YOU SHOULD LISTEN FOR A SECOND:

There’s no shame in being weak,
But in remaining that way.

You’re flaccid and want to take your life by the balls, and take back control.

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BOUNCING BACK FROM DEFEAT & PAIN.

So i’ve recently injured myself while working out, and as you may or may not know i’m on a quest to find and develop everlasting TRUE STRENGTH. And this has never happened, not even once throughout all these years but i think this is a needed setback that’ll help me in this journey.

And what i want you to take back from this is to not remain stuck in the pit.

You see, challenges and hardships are meant to be faced and then learn something from them- that’s why life showers you with these. And call me crazy but…the more challenges\hardships you get, the more aspects of your life are in dire need of improvement.

That’s just life’s way to tell you where and what to focus.

And don’t get me wrong, it’s okay to feel sad and overwhelmed- i know i was, when i couldn’t train and this whole matter kept hindering my progress.

And this applies to every aspect of life when you feel defeated and broken.

Feel the pain, grieve, but NEVER GIVE IN.

Because mustering the strength and the courage to be true to your life, your aspirations and goals it’s a skill you need to develop, especially when going through mud.

One of the “tricks” i use to be able to adapt to sudden rush of stress and tension is to willingly put myself in stressful and hard situations. And while that might be common knowledge, it does wonders.

And the reason is simple:
Your body becomes familiar with those uncomfortable feelings over time, so that the next time you find yourself in those kind of situations it knows how to act accordingly and appropriately.

Iron is forged through fire, after all.

6 Ways To Let Success Find You Faster (Without Relying On Luck)

Success, unlike the majority of people believes- it’s not created by blind luck, instead- success it’s the result of a series of (usually good) decisions that compound together. More specifically, these decisions are also heavily “sticked to” habits that one might have imposed on itself, in order to succeed. Here’s some:

1. STOP PARTYING EVERY WEEKEND

This may seem obvious, but isn’t to some. How’s your future supposed to benefit from you getting wasted? It doesn’t – it makes you unhealthy, pitiful and WEAK. Ditch the booze, it’s not helping you. You’ll thank me once you don’t even have a drop of alcohol in your body.

2. STOP PROCRASTINATING.

I’m guilty of this, too. Listen, i love videogames – but you have to realize that you’re losing 8 hours a day “working” towards nothingness. How come you can focus for that much time while leveling up your character on World Of Warcraft, and then when it comes to doing something that can actually put you in a better position (Working out, building that business, finishing that paper ecc…) you get flustered within the first 3 minutes? I mean, what the hell. And that applies to mindlessly scrolling through social media\Youtube – too. What are you, a drug addict? you don’t need to check that fucking stuff so much, Twice a day it’s enough – START FOCUSING, TIME DOESN’T COME BACK.

3. IGNORE THE USELESS.

Haters,
Who doesn’t believe in you,
Negativity,
The News,
Porn, (that can count as procrastinating)
People who talk the talk but haven’t walked the walk,
Who no longer serves anything in your life,
What society says.

4. PUT YOURSELF SO SUCCESS CAN FIND YOU.

Do nothing and you will get nothing. In order to success to find you, you need to put yourself between OPPORTUNITIES – that means that you have to recognize, analyze and then take chances that are presented to you- make some dust, create connections with people, take that job if you think you can use it as a stepping stone, do something you didn’t think you could do or that you deem “out of reach” or out of your capabilities. You see money flowing from somewhere? JUMP INTO THE STREAM, and see how you can gain from it. What i’m trying to say it’s that you have to be action-oriented. Because by doing, something always come back – Every action causes a reaction.

5. STOP CHASING WOMEN.

This is aimed more towards men, but it can be generalized, and it’s pretty self explanatory. Instead of losing time chasing women and what’s between their legs, focus on your passion, your purpose – your life. Fix it, because as you are now you’re not ready to get in a relationship, you’ll get your heart broken without understanding why, and you really don’t have that kind of time, do you? you’ll see that as the more you build yourself, women will come by themselves, and not some low quality ones that go sleep around with everyone. And the more important lesson from this is : MORE TIME FOR YOU TO BUILD YOURSELF.

6. DO THE OPPOSITE.

Of what everyone does, because you will not achieve success by doing what everyone else is doing. You HAVE to be the exception, the 1% – because success it’s not found in “being normal”, success only follows the extraordinary, the ones who dare to shoot not for the Moon, but for Saturn.
Innovate. Make the old obsolete by building something new. Concentrate on your strengths while polishing your weaknesses.

Because by doing what the majority does, you will achieve that majority’s results.

If you liked this post please tell me what you think about it, and what are some other ways you are finding working for you.

Take care.

A Very Proper Introduction.

You know what time it is. Yeah it’s like some formal thing YOU HAVE to do at some point, so i’m doing this now that my following isn’t big. (Yeah, because it will be huge at some point).

And as you might have get, i’m a pretty modest guy, i admit.
But hey, come on, that was a joke 😀


…or was it?

I’m not really used to talk in a very “personal” way, i try to be detached most of the times so i can give you- in my opinion- the most objective and foolproof ways to actually think about life and handle it.

This is me, V – nice to make your acquaintance.

Yup, that person right there wanted to start this blog as a way to …blog? and condense his experiences and thoughts on certain things, Success & Masculinity first and foremost – so they can be somewhat of use to you. Because i know I needed someone to point me in the right direction at some point in life, and i feel somebody like past-me would have certainly taken benefit from it.

That person is also Italian, so you might find his english NOT THE BEST and you have to deal with it. It’s very rough and formless….you know, just to be artistic.

I’m into Healthy living\fitness.
Martial arts,
Business & Money Making ,
Food
Videogames, yup.

NO. I’m not going to put fu**ing Travel because EVERYONE LOVES TO TRAVEL. IT’S NOT AN INTEREST.

And, being from Calabria – i love my spicy food. (That’s a region from south-Italy, y’all!)

I don’t really am a person that talks much about himself, so consider this kind of thing as a rarity, or whatever. Not that i have any reason not to, i’m great.


BUT

The plan i have for this blog doesn’t fall too much into the personal area, as i already mentioned. but i don’t know- if you like this kind of stuff maybe i could make an exception from time to time.

What about YOU though? i’ve seen a spike in my follower’s numbers lately and i want to know more about you, and why you clicked that follow button on me, any questions you’d like to ask? But more importantly, HOW can i help you with the things i’m talking about? ;D


Let’s connect.

Ah, and nice to meet you too.

Growth Is Found Where You Least Expect it.

Growing it’s an unavoidable part of all human beings, and even other creatures. Someone though might find itself not being able to make progress, constantly playing the same tune all over again for all its life.

Whether it’s because of past events that triggered fear and forged the bad habit to stick with what’s familiar – or be it the complete absence of the desire to do so, it’s known that it’s not unusual to find that spark while traversing pain and hardships, since they’re the best teachers you could find.

But growth can be experienced through other means, too.

While inspired,
Through simple anger,
By someone else’s words,

You name it.

We just need to know what we’re looking for, and why not- even stare intensely at something which we’d never though could teach us that something. Yes, that’s the hard part – because if we don’t know for sure that a thing could benefit us- we would never even consider it.

Heh.
Think about it: so many opportunities gone, just because you didn’t want to see them.
And don’t get it wrong, i’m guilty of it, too.

That’s why i think that being present and mindful when going through life could spare you countless headaches and regrets. You can start by simply REALLY listening to the ones you’re talking to, or to your body for example.

Actually PUT EFFORT in what you’re doing, in living – that’s the key.

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A Few Tips To Feel Healthier Instantly.

Every little thing that i will list down below WILL help you feel better overall, if you stick with them! These are little changes that you can implement one by one (or all at once) in your life, so you can feel a thousand times better as time passes :

Feeling lethargic or with no energy? hydration it’s usually the main factor causing this. Force yourself to drink more water, and if you really can’t chug down liters of water, start with these small steps to ensure you’re hydrated – in a different way :

  • Eat Fruit.
  • Drink Tea\Herbal Teas.
  • Include more Vegetables into your diet.
  • Make Smoothies out of stuff!
  • Broth\Soups are excellent when you need to take in fluids.
  • Try and drink more water than the day before, little by little. Your body will get accustomed to it.
  • Icicles! (Make them yourself, they’re healthier and easy to make.)

The other key is to MOVE MORE! You don’t give the chance to your body to challenge itself, you must keep it active in order to be healthy, and you don’t need to be stuck on boring workout regimens 24\7, SWITCH IT UP! some examples:

  • Go for a Run.
  • Do Martial Arts!
You don’t need to be as good as him.
  • Go for a Hike in Nature. Breathe some of that good and clean air, for once, while exercising at the same time.
  • Move Heavy Stuff.
  • Chop some Wood! chop chop!
  • Swim. Seriously, it does wonders for you.

And remember:

To see results anywhere in life, you need 3 things: Time, Action & Consistency. The same applies when building your body and becoming healthier.

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Don't Be Afraid to Look Stupid.

And this holds true especially when you’re trying to learn.

Someone may laugh at you, sure.
You’ll blush for a little while, sure.
You may seem stupid in the moment, why not.

But… are you, stupid?

You’ll get your question answered, your doubts cleared, and you even get the chance to approach whatever seemed daunting to you in a more lighthearted and confident way. That doesn’t seem stupid to me.

I think that “looking stupid” it’s the first step towards truly mastering yourself, or your craft. Do you think that important people throughout history were cherished and taken seriously from the get-go?

Fuck no.

If you were a random person, back in the past, would you have taken seriously the idea of the not-yet-affirmed Thomas Edison to put electricity, something thought abstract, into a bulb and then into everything? You’ll probably laugh at him and discard his idea as one of a fool.

But now, knowing what Edison has done…who would be the fool?

What i’m trying to say is not to take yourself too seriously.

Be open to mistakes, to be able to laugh at yourself without lingering on your embarrassing moments.

You’ll see that in this way you not only will give others the impression of someone who is approachable, humble & genuine – you’ll even find yourself be able to grow faster without the worry of stumbling over your failures.

You’re expected to make mistakes at the start, and even further down the line! – nobody is born knowing everything.

And as always,

Take care,

-V

Gratitude And its Jewels.

Sometimes, or a lot of times I should say, I find myself in deep thought – the kind of thinking in which you’re not satisfied until you’ve explored every single facet of that thought, its pros & cons, its consequences, the impact that may have if you actually carried on with following through with that thought. That’s how i “met” gratitude.

But what is gratitude?

I think that gratitude is not just a feeling, not something you can get instantly like anger, joy, and happiness. Instead, it’s… A state of being.

Something that you can only discover day by day as you continuously move through life by being grateful and giving thanks:

For the air you breathe,

For the food you eat,

For the pain you feel,

For the chance you’ve been given to LIVE.

Those are just some examples, but you can be grateful for whatever you want really, for your enriching relationships and the people that loves you, for the material possessions that are helping you to live life with more comfort…the possibilities are endless, you can find gratitude everywhere – you just have to be still and…actually look for it, feel it, wait for the feeling to manifest, don’t force it because it will happen naturally.

What if all these things that you take for granted suddenly disappeared from your life- how would you feel? wouldn’t you rather feel at peace with everything around you?

I know I do.

The gifts of gratitude are very concrete yet very abstract in my opinion. At times gratitude won’t make itself visible until you’ve lost something very valuable to you, even. Only then you will understand. But just losing something won’t let you experience it, you must couple the loss you feel with the feeling and decision to Start over and try searching for it, especially if you just came out of a difficult situation.

Then, in the end, after you’ve been through all this and finally started giving value to everything important in your life, only THEN those gifts will appear, you will be at peace with yourself and everything that surrounds you, you will have a new outlook on life- and the problems that before seemed daunting and caused you anxiety or trouble will seem trivial and funny! and these are only minor effects that gratitude will cast upon you.

BUT...

You must take the lifelong effort of searching, maintaining and expressing that feeling NO MATTER WHAT.


In a way that someday will become who you are:

Truly grateful.

Being Emotional is Hindering Your Success.

And the reason it’s simple.

Because it clouds your judgement. And a clouded judgement means taking bad decisions. And i reckon you don’t need me to tell you what bad decisions lead to.

Exactly, NOT success, that’s for sure.

See- we’re human beings, emotional beings, so why shouldn’t we let our emotions run wildly and freely, you say?

i’ll give you a stupid example, do this right now. (or don’t) go to your girlfriend\boyfriend or whatever, and remind them of a bad thing they did to you, even a little one. You’ll probably end up in an argument at this point (thanks, V!) and eventually that will lead to emotional responses from you or the other party-or both. There you go, a recipe for a ruined evening, alas- a bad decision that was taken because of your loss of control over your emotions, because you really needed to prove your point over that bad thing she\he did to you.

Now, that experiment was of course a bit exaggerated but i think you get the gist of what i’m saying and what i’m trying to prove to you.

An instant of emotional reaction, can end up breaking years of hard work…just because emotions had a say in your decision.

That’s why when you’re taking important steps, in life or in business- you need to take out emotions from the basket of your eggs. How can you expect to have the ability to entertain a sound, objective view on things otherwise? you will make a TON of bad decisions like this! emotions are rampant, they fly all around – why would you want to lead your decisions with something so …volatile?

Emotions should be used to accompany an important decision, they don’t have to be the core of it. Let the core be logic, objectivity, soundness, effectiveness. THEN, you sprinkle on them the emotions needed.

Say you and your friend are having a very angry argument and you’ve let rage say some bad things that, of course, you didn’t mean. Puff. That friendship might be gone forever. And for what? for you not being able to get a hold over your rage, cool off, walk away and then re-tackle that argument in a smarter and collected manner.

THINK – not feel, before you do. Feelings might step in when the thinking has already set everything up.

Be wise and control your feelings, not the other way around.

Stop Being Fat and Miserable, Take Control Before it's too Late.

Stop feeling pity for yourself. I’ve been there. I was overweight, constantly whipping myself on how miserable and depressed i was. And guess what, that DIDN’T help in any way, shape or form.

The only thing that seemed to work was to stop feeling for poor little me. Then, gradually, a change started to happen into my head.

What i want you to do is to acknowledge your faults. You’re fat and ugly? Ok – stop “feeling” and shift into the objective vision of how things are. Detach from your emotions, being a miserable, fat and emotional guy\girl won’t cut it. First and foremost take emotions out of the equation, no question asked and without any kind of doubt.

Because emotions are NOT NEEDED when you’re in a bad position and you’re trying to change for good whether it’s your scale that you’re trying to cut or some bad emotional pattern. Take control, the good thing is that you can physically control of your actions and behaviour unless you have some kind of condition, so FEEL lucky to be able to do that (gratitude, amirite?). There’s someone out there who doesn’t have this luxury, and one of the most beautiful qualities about humans is that we have the ability to change and re-invent ourselves, we’re builders! and that it’s true even when it comes to build ourselves as individuals. Of course, what kind of control do you expect to have if you can’t even stop yourself from stuffing your mouth with food that’s bad for you? start from there.

Holidays are now over. Feeling guilty because you stuffed your face and had a good time?

Don’t.
It’s okay as long as you get back on track with your workouts\eating. And if you have no idea on how to do so, My Guide on Fitness, packed with all kind of informations (meal plans, tips & tricks, workout plans and more) can help you if you’re just starting out – and i know that the price is incredibly low for the value i’m providing. That’s because I WANT TO HELP YOU to get in the best shape ever, but the question is: Are you willing to help yourself?

Because in the end the change has to start from YOU. I can arm you with the tools and knowledge, but if you don’t have the WILL to change, then you’re hopeless. Sorry, but i’m being real.

So, again.

Being fat and unhappy with how you look and feel it’s nothing to be ashamed of.
Staying that way is though.

You’re not supposed to go through life fat and soft – life it’s going to hit you sooner or later: whether it’s going to be the death of a loved one, an ugly sickness befalling on you or on someone you know, you losing your job, being homeless ecc… you have to be prepared when sh*t hits the fan, you OWE it to yourself to be in the best shape possible so you can take and possibly return the blows better.

Physical prowess it’s not just about how you look, that’s just a cute byproduct, the real gain is strength and the ability of being physically able – so that when you’re old you can still play with your children\grandchildren because you didn’t slack off earlier in life, while others will feel all kinds of aches until they die a miserable death.

You don’t want to be the latter.


The Final Key to Success for Men: Anger

Motivation? Bull.
Gratitude? Yeah, it helps.
Discipline? Sure, whatever.

I’ve extensively talked about those things and how they can help you in life but…today’s topic it’s something i think it’s exclusive to Men, which i have briefly talked about in this article. That doesn’t mean that women can’t feel anger don’t get me wrong – but we are more prone and seem to channel this feeling better than our female counterpart.

I mean, look at history! most warriors were men, and for a good reason. We’re wired for conquest, achievement, physical strength and…consequential anger, no matter whatever people might think. Have you seen those movies where the main character (a man) – take John Wick as a “modern” example or James Bond – gets everything taken away from him and then he automatically gets on revenge-mode? NO ONE can stop him. And that’s not just because it’s a movie and it’s meant to go that way, this happens in real life too.

Ever seen a man who got bullied in school\dumped by the girlfriend he loved get a monster’s physique the year later or succeeding in his endeavors, and suddenly it seems like he’s a totally different person? You got it, that’s because of ANGER.

And even YOUR Anger, if you can harness it properly it’s going to shoot you towards your goals. But you need to have a reason to your anger, it’s not just like because you spilled your drink on your suit you suddenly feel anger, that’s stupid stuff. You must have a real, profound reason to this anger – it must be a constant raging fire inside you, which you can control and redirect. Not to destroy, mind you, because it’s dangerous – but to create. Think deeply about it, what’s something that you find enraging and you wish it went a different way? maybe it’s because someone who you think is a fool has something you don’t and crave, i don’t know, wealth, that dream car or whatever and you start thinking: “why is that incredible awesome me does not have that, and that ridiculous fool does”? – maybe your anger spurs because you want to repay back those who’ve hurt you in the past and let them see what you can become, that’s another good reason. Maybe you’re angry because you’re in a situation you spite and can’t give back to your parents that have always provided for you the peace of mind and of finances they deserve.

Whatever might be for you. Feel the Rage.

Every day when you wake up, when you’re scaling that business, going through the motions, lifting that weight, look at your goals with a mean stare. Feel the injustice of your state of being and destroy the obstacles that stand on your path with it.

Society nowadays it’s blasting you in the face with material containing a weak, tranquil and oftentimes emasculated man – stray from that, because that’s how you WILL NOT be what you’re meant to be, don’t be fooled, Men are meant to be angry and obsessed with a Purpose! anger nowadays it’s framed as a negative feeling, while for a Man it’s a positive and essential feeling. It becomes negative only when it’s uncontrolled, remember that.

And while you’re at it why don’t you use your Anger to get in the best shape of your life this new year with my new & straight to the core Fitness Guide ? Hurry though, it’s 25% OFF until tomorrow. It has everything you need to get started to lose fat and build muscle. Easy to follow and at this ridiculous price just for now!

Take care,

-V

The Ugly Truth About Change Nobody is Telling You.

Change.

It’s the only thing keeping you away from what truly resonates in life for you.

But in order for you to undergo any kind of change, you must sacrifice something. For someone this must mean distantiating itself from people he\she no longer needs in his life, to break some bad habits or whatever. And that may mean keeping your distance from loved ones as well: your family, friends…and yes, i do realize it sounds cruel-i mean- these people have been a big part in your life, why would you ditch them now? well i didn’t necessarily mean that you have to COMPLETELY stop frequenting them. You just have to cut off the toxic mindsets that you may have inherited from them through the years. Maybe not with your parents, but those friendships that are not getting you anywhere in life needs to go. And you will realize it too, sooner or later, because you will find that you can no longer “vibe” with those people. And not necessarily because they’re bad people but…because you are changing, your priorities are shifting and no longer align with your friend’s.

I’ve been there.
It’s not an enjoyable thing to go through of course, but it’s NECESSARY.

So you can form new and worthwhile bonds that are aligning with what you’re becoming. That doesn’t mean that you have to be a dick and tell people to fuck off almost as like they’re just tools, it just means that you are switching the “pool you’re swimming into”.

By doing so, and cutting off unnecessary and bad\toxic bonds and instead connecting with like-minded people you will find yourself grow faster, feel better and proceeding at a higher speed towards your goals.

And more importantly, the feeling that you’re just “putting on a mask” while with those people will fade away because you’ve stopped adapting to their thinking\personalities.

What’s the most difficult change you’re trying to undergo right now? Tell me in the comments.

Take care,

-V

My Fitness Guide is FINALLY out! Go buy it! :D

After months of work, finally – my ultimate Fitness Guide that will help you lose fat and build muscle by providing you with all my knowledge and the tools to do so – is ready and available!

I’m SO excited that i can finally help people who are struggling with losing fat\weight and that want to have a healthier better body overall. I’ve been hyping this up for a reason…

I’m going to say it…

Not because i’m biased but…my guide it’s actually pretty fucking good.

Since i’m so sure of it i’m going to give to the first 5 people who contact me (here or on Twitter) 20% off the original price. That’s it! Then it goes back to the original price, bear with me but i can’t hand out gold nuggets like this! 😛

You can find it here

Tell me what you think about it. And if you have any questions, just drop them in the comments or contact my via Twitter.

Take care!

-V

Have Some Fancy And Cozy Holidays, Will You?

HAPPY HOLIDAYS!

‘Tis just a fairly laid back post to wish you all the best for this holidays’s season, whether you’ll be with family or alone please do me a solid and slip into your pajamas and brew some piping hot chocolate (or what’s best for ya) and take the time to BREATHE AND RELAX. And keep a shining smile on that face, just how i like it-and remember that things will get better if you just put the work in.

Personally i will be spending these holidays working, training (yeah because GAINZ) & with family. And if all goes well by the end of the month i will be sharing with you my finally completed Fitness and Fat Loss Guide, so…stay tuned for that! ;D

(And i will be enjoying playing some Death Stranding, too…yup.)

So as always,
Take care, and keep on bettering yourself. (AND GO READ SOME OF MY OLDER ARTICLES *COUGH COUGH*)

-V

You Are Falling Into The Trap Of (Fake) Improvement.

Why is that you ask?

Well, let’s say you’ve picked up a few good and healthy habits recently, like:you stopped wasting time scrolling through Instagram and social media, you started eating healthier…that’s great!

…but…

Is that it?

What now? huh? you don’t know?
You see, picking up good habits and sticking to them it’s not going to help you if you don’t know where you’re going.

You can be the fittest,smartest and most disciplined individual around- but if you’re lacking direction all of those tools you’ve learned to use and build with are not going to help you, because oftentimes we get “contempt” with the little stuff we’ve achieved and we don’t even bother considering that-yet again- we need to re-invent ourselves. And we automatically go in autopilot mode, where we THINK we’re improving by re-enacting the same habits day after day, but we’re not really moving.

Keep your habits a CHALLENGE.
IF they’re not hard to stick to anymore, they’ve become part of you-so they are obsolete now. (That doesn’t mean that you have to remove them, mind you)

How would someone get out of a maze or find his\hers way back home with the wrong map? they’ll end up in another place or even worse, stuck in the same.

This is what i call “fake improvement” – ok, you’ve done something to improve, but you need to realize that keeping the same consistency on the habits you’ve built, the things you’ve learned ecc..it’s not enough. Life it’s all about constant change, so STALENESS it’s discouraged. Revamp those habits, add new ones! learn new things! meet new people!

You need to have a Roadmap, little goals that will propel you forward to the bigger one. Don’t do things just to improve, do things to improve AND to reach what you have in mind. Because lack of direction it’s always associated with no results whatsoever, so it won’t take you long before you realize that even that you’ve put in the work into your new habits it’s not giving you tangible results.

Be smart about it.

Take care,

-V

Only you know what is best for Yourself: The reason of holiday depression

As we’re approaching the holidays, a lot of people might go into the “holiday depression” mode. I know this because in the past i experienced it, too. The feeling of not feeling enough, thoughts along these lines: “Oh great, another year is ending and i still haven’t accomplished a fucking thing. Why am i even alive?” I get it, i really do.

I can’t give you a quick fix for this, because in order to be able to feel enough, you have to BE enough. And that doesn’t come automatically like some people want you to believe, it’s the hard cold truth, but it is what it is. And the only way you can ever hope to be enough is to put in the work, in whatever area of your life that is in desperate need of it. There is no way around it.

But that doesn’t mean that any kind of work will do the trick, you have to do the work that YOU think can help you. I’m saying this because maybe, like myself, you come from a very big family where things were forced on you so that you wouldn’t “bring shame” and things like that. And even though they might hammer those things on you without (or with) a bad intention, since that’s how it worked for them they think it’ll work for you, too. They genuinely want to help.

Unfortunately you are not them, and even though going your own way might bring temporary discord and discomfort among you-i can promise that everything will feel so much better afterwards. But you have to find the will to stand up for yourself.

ATTENTION though:

Ultimately, even if that’s the case, you cannot shift the blame on others. So if you really hate your situation and hate this gnawing feeling of being useless weighing on your chest, you have to take responsibility for it and stop avoiding working on yourself, because that is the real issue. And feeling bad about this will not help you in any way, feeling sad during these times will only hinder you, the only thing to do is to accept what your current situation is, and-with a smile- PRESS ONWARD.

Visualizing As A Way to Prepare for Success

While i’m not a fan on relying completely on this method, (because, let’s be REAL for a moment-you need action to manifest things) taking the time to visualize the things you desire must not be underestimated, because like i said before-if coupled with RUTHLESS ACTION (am i sounding like Napoleon Hill yet?) you can be sure to be on the right path to manifest whatever!

Visualizing your goals, like: where are you going to live in a few years, your dream car, the job you want, the partner you seek, ecc.. can put yourself in that new mindset that is needed to attract those things, you’re preparing yourself and saying to your subconscious mind that you are “ready” for those things to happen, and as a byproduct you’re subconsciously starting to develop and gravitate towards the traits, habits or characteristics that a person who possess those things acts like! it’s not magic or wishful thinking.

Doing so can really give you that “what’s like to have that” feeling, that is so important especially when you’re going through hard times\challenges that can discourage you daily. You’re literally creating those situations in your mind so that you can see what it’s like to be there, what’s needed to actually get there (by calmly seeing how you would accomplish that in a relaxed state) and so that you can prepare for whatever challenges that might come with getting all of those things.

Just find a quiet place and if you’re already used to it, go in a meditative state- and if not, just close your eyes, breathe deeply and sit quietly while working towards those thoughts, and try to feel like you’re already where you want to be for an extended period of time, joyfully lose track of time and allow yourself to relax and see ,feel and enjoy the process along with what you’re visualizing, don’t hold back and go in much detail as possible.

You will find that by doing this daily you will automatically be more relaxed (as this is a sort of meditation too) centered and happy, as well as developing the things you need to get those dreamy stuff of yours-which are usually personality traits at the moment missing in your persona.

Try this out for a week or so, and let me know how you feel 🙂

Settling Is Like Committing Suicide.

Now, you might say: “V, that title seems a little too extreme!” but that’s where i say…

NO.

And the reason is because everyone is meant to DO SOMETHING on this planet.
See it like this: Settling is like playing Tetris without even trying to make the pieces fall in the right place, and as extent, to win.

Tell me WHY a person would want that. Why would someone want to feel contempt with that low-paying job, that toxic relationship they’re in, that ugly wife… i can’t understand.

You get one shot at life, and you dare not to shoot for the moon? how boring is that! let that sink in, you really want to spend your life as a nobody and let that childhood dream of yours die like that? you are more than that. You see: it’s not an exaggeration when i say it’s like committing suicide-because you’re selling yourself low, discarding your potential-what could you be…right form the start. You are not even giving yourself the chance to change your situation.

Please,
Give it some thought.

Sure, it will be really hard but…will it be harder than arguing every day with that ugly person\people in your life? will it be harder than enduring your boss yelling and laughing at you every day of your life? hell no, build that business! ditch that person! grasp that freedom!

Would you rather have no time to spend with your loved ones because you’re working 24\7 or would you rather expand and automate that business so your life transforms in your leisure time?

MAKE A CHANGE!

Workout and eat healthy so you can finally be damn happy with that new and strong body of yours, and if you need a useful assistant for this i can recommend this SUPER affordable and awesome Fitness Tracker which i’m sure it will come in handy in your fitness journey. In this way you’re helping yourself (and me, since i make something out of it) getting better and “recorded” results. Remember, why suffer and be unhappy for a lifetime when you can choose to suffer and be happy for SOMETHING, which is bettering your condition instead of suffering for something that it’s dragging you into the abyss day-after-day? A strong mind can’t be maintained without a strong body.

And if you’d like some advice you can contact me and i’ll be at your disposal to help you to the best of my coaching abilities.

Choose wisely because the last thing you want is to be stuck eternally with your bad decisions and regrets. But be aware that nobody is coming to save you, nobody will put in the hard work, the sacrifices and the sleepless nights that are needed to change your life for the better. You will have to rely on yourself only. But oh will it be worth it once you’re adamant about it! lifelong happiness instead of daily depression? total freedom? you tell me about it.

You’re meant to be so much more-but the sad reality is that people have long given up even before they’re given themselves a chance at that something…society is programmed in a way that locks people hopes and dreams up, makes you addicted to the useless, bombards you with fake information and instills that “sheep” mentality onto every single one of us.

It’s obvious that people nowadays rather to keep their heads down and don’t even dare dream, everything is filled with insecurity and doubt and negativity. They’ve taken it all out of us! but it’s our-your, job to get it all back.

DON’T THINK THIS IS THE NORM.
FEELING SAD AND UNHAPPY IT’S NOT HOW LIFE IS SUPPOSED TO BE.

So get out there and start making changes from today, create your dream life and never look back, because all you’re going to see if you do look back it’s something that has always ensnared man: ruthless emotional slavery.

Take care,

-V

The Current Disruption between relationships.

The thought that relationships are being somewhat disrupted- be it by society’s “new” norms, by paranoid thoughts or by even nothingness has been knocking on the doors of my mind. Because it seems that NOBODY is able to give without expecting something in return. And why would they, right? we only think of our own gain – truly, we are selfish creatures now more than ever.

Lately i’ve been seing on the web, and in my everyday life, that always more standards are being enforced on males and females when it comes to relationships (romantic and not)- or should i say rules, ways to act to gain whatever you need from the other person.

“Act like this so he will miss you, act like that so that she will give you a blowjob, say that thing so the others in the group will validate you” And so on. I honestly find all of this pathetic.

This is basically how you annihilate your personality and close yourself off from any TRUE bond.

Why? because you’re no longer trying to form a fucking connection with that individual, instead you’re looking to GAIN something from them- don’t get me wrong, it’s not inherently bad to gain something from a relationship- but when ALL THAT YOU’RE LOOKING FOR is to gain, then i think there’s something out of place in the way we think of connections with others. You’re not acting like yourself anymore, you are just wearing a mask so that you are able to manipulate someone else in getting you the things you need, that’s why most relationships are short lived nowadays- do you think this approach can work long-term with another human being? HELL NO.

And while we can keep being scared because of our past traumas and bad experiences we must understand that the only way to stop shallowness from seeping into our society is to hold onto meaningful values (that are oh-so badly seen) that have been around for centuries and actually open ourselves to others while being SELFLESS! that’s the only way to let your unique character shine through all of this indifference we have sadly being accustomed to. Playing games with each other needs to go out of fashion.

And that is, in my opinion, the only way to a real connected world.

Sometimes you just have to Fall Back.

That doesn’t mean that you have to give up on your mission.

It’s just a tactical retreat.
You might take it as a “loss” in the short-term view of things (and if you’re proud as i am), but it will do more good than bad to whatever you have going on.

It is not cowardly.

In life, whenever we set our eyes on some kind of prize-we tend to engage in autopilot mode, and while that has some advantages, we usually ignore the risk called monotony. We fall prey of certain behavior patterns that aren’t of use anymore even if they were at first.

And these kind of patterns prevents us from going forward. So we need to snap out of that autopilot mode and “pull” ourselves back, re-evaluate our direction and approach the matter in a new, fresh way.

But finding that new approach can be daunting and seem nowhere to be found, it’s a stalemate, an… artist’s block– so to speak.

What to do, then? while i can’t provide an ultimate solution for everything and everyone of you, i think and hope that my friend Marcus Aurelius can give you some inspiration for these dire times of yours:

“Regain your senses, call yourself back, and once again wake up.

Now that you realize that only dreams were troubling you, view this ‘reality’ as you view your dreams.”

And don’t you dare give up, because your dreams are closer than you think.

SEMEN RETENTION AS A MAN (BRIEF INTRO AND BENEFITS)

If you’re new or shocked by this topic i invite you to continue reading and dispel whatever thoughts you may have, instead engage in a different way to see things, you might otherwise miss what’s at the core of this argument!

What is it:
Exactly as it sounds, you avoid ejaculation in any way shape or form (no by masturbation nor sex ecc..). You keep your seed to yourself. But why do you ask?

Because as a Man, your seed is valuable.
The way I see it (and the Indian culture too) your sperm contains your life-force. In fact, semen itself is life-force. It makes sense since it’s what gives birth to life, isn’t it? Yeah, but for some people it doesn’t make sense when you talk about retaining it, why? since it’s life-force, why would you waste it blindly and thoughtlessly without actually giving birth – reproducing? you’re wasting your vitality, your potential energy, your masculinity. (as well as a lot of testosterone boys!) Ever wondered why once you’re “done” having sex or just ejaculated in general how you felt …tired? followed by a sense of relief? THAT’S YOUR ENERGY GOING DOWN THE DRAIN! …or wherever it’s going anyway. And that sense of release it’s your mind, your whole being that just said: “Well, i have done all i had to do on this earth, we’re done!” thinking that it just gave life, but you really didn’t! your mind in that way is tricked, and you somewhat feel accomplished…but you didn’t do anything, really.

Well, you did waste your energy for a brief rush of pleasure. That’s what you did.

But i don’t want you to think about this in a “spiritual” way, because that’s not the direction i’m taking. I want you to recognize it as wasted potential. Biological potential, take it as what it is, energy:

It’s like you’re wasting fuel from your car. How are you supposed to go where you’re meant to, if all you do with that fuel is wasting it on roundabouts and places you already know?

So what should you do ?

Try not releasing IT for 30 days at first, and you could see these benefits:

  • More energy overall, you will feel less tired, more excited.
  • Your skin will gain vitality.
  • More Testosterone.
  • You will feel calmer, centered.
  • Women will notice it (more prone to approach you).
  • It builds self-discipline.
  • You can redirect the sexual energy in whatever passion\project\business you have going on. (Exponential improvements in productivity.)
  • Better workouts.
  • Increased muscle gain. (not confirmed yet, at least by me)
  • You will feel more masculine in general.

These are just a few major benefits that you could experience.

And before you start discounting the whole thing, actually try this and let me know in the comments that you’re doing so. (Yeah, sounds a little creepy said it in this way i know.)

But being a man that has engaged in this i can confirm that some of these benefits i did experience! I said some because one might not experience ALL of these benefits, i guess it takes a certain amount of time, or it’s based upon the individual.

Let me know what you think about it in the comments. :]

Take care,

-V.

Drink your Caffeine! (Benefits and why you should)

If you already do though (and i’m sure you do), that’s fine and dandy – i’m going to give you more reasons that can convince you that -that’s right – as long as what you put in your body it’s the good kind of caffeine, it has a lot of health benefits.

So get your kettle boiling and your coffee brewing!

As you may or may not know, i’m a health and fitness fanatic, and when i stumble upon ways i didn’t know about to boost my health i become instantly a researcher about that specific topic-to see if there’s actually some truth behind it and how i can make the most out of it.

Now, let’s begin with Black Coffee – not your cappuccino or weird spiced latte. Just pure and strong Espresso, black like your hood neighbor. (And since i’m 100% Italian i’m kind of biased here, but that’s for another time)

The “indispensable” little cup of coffee represents a typically Italian rite, fruit of an ingrained habit that has brought numerous experts to give their take on this matter when it comes to the health benefits\damages that comes with this… dark beverage.

Among the countless nutritional components of coffee there is -the more known and studied- of course, caffeine! since it’s blessed with important properties like:

  • Having a stimulating effect on the gastric and bilious secretion:(That’s why it’s thought that a coffee after lunch helps with digestion)
  • Having a tonic and stimulating effect on the nervous system and the cardiac system:
    (That’s why many people appreciate its attention-enhancing effect, whether they need a boost to get through the endless pages of a tome, or just as a pick-me-up kind of thing.)
  • Its lipolytic effect, meaning it’s useful for losing weight, since the caffeine uses the fats in your body as a mean to create energy (so it burns them) and that’s why an Espresso it’s an awesome choice before working out – it enhances STILL FURTHER the fats you’re going to burn and moreover it gives you energy, neat right?!
  • It makes you feel satiated, so it is a valid aid in controlling your appetite.

This DOES NOT mean that you have to chug down countless espressi, mind you.

Because that much caffeine can have a lot of drawbacks, like everything, take it in moderation and be mindful.

Now,
To the green land!

AAAAAH. Green Tea, it might be one of my favorite teas\beverages ever! It’s so versatile and can be sipped on in any time of the day, hot during the winter or ice cold during summer when you need a refreshing healthy drink. Personally i mostly go for the hot version, even in summer.

This ancient tea comes from an ancient civilization too: China! But this variety of tea has reached all of Japan, Korea and India as well as other countries. Let’s see why you should bathe in green tea:

A Famous variety of Japanese green tea, “matcha” – the lighter one on the right it’s called ” usucha (薄茶, thin tea) ” and the one on the left koicha (濃茶, thick tea). As its name and color implies, it is more concentrated.
  • Delays Aging: This might be one of the most known benefits, since the Antioxidant-rich green tea neutralizes the oxidants or free radicals present in the body. Therefore, regular consumption of this tea can effectively delay the signs and symptoms of aging.
  • Has stimulating effects: Just like any other tea or coffee, since caffeine it’s present in green tea as well (even though in much less quantity than in coffee and other teas) you can use it for a nice surge of energy.
  • Boosts your immune system: Research shows that people who regularly drink green tea do not fall victim to common bacterial and viral infections as easily as those who do not add it to their diet. The catechins, present in green tea, prevent bacteria and viruses from attaching themselves to cell walls to infect them. These catechins also counter the toxins released by microbes. This antimicrobial property also protects you from bad  breath, dysentery, diarrhea, tooth decay, indigestion, flu, cough, and cold, and colitis, all of which are caused by the microbial and fungal action.
  • Improves Cardiac Health: Some elements in green tea can also lower blood pressure reducing the risk of stroke and coronary heart disease.
  • Controls Diabetes: If not taken with sugar, of course – the alkaline nature of green tea aids with reducing the blood glucose levels.

But like all things, risks are found along with these benefits as well, so if you’d like to know those risks too – let me know.

But what about you? what’s your favorite caffeine-based (or not) beverage that helps you stay in tip top shape or that just gives you a refreshing kick? let me know!! (x2)

Take care,

-V

A Few useful and surefire ways to stay focused

“You need to focus, concentrate dammit!” How many times have you heard these words (or something similar) towards you accompanied by a flying book straight to your forehead? be it from your teachers or your parents-they all say to focus but nobody really taught us to do so isn’t it? Well, that’s why i’m here ;D

Laser-like Focus it’s the element that can make WORLDS of difference when it comes to attaining anything relevant and worthwhile in your life. How do you think top class athletes and scientists that make groundbreaking discoveries make all this possible? by snoozing and having their minds and attention wandering all day? Sure, if you’re talking about someone i’ve never heard of.

In this day and age everyone – starting from people, friends and family and going to big tech companies accompanied by their useless noise (social media, news, TV, ecc..) – is looking to monopolize your attention. (see? i just did that) Why? because they know it’s very valuable, while you don’t, and waste it. What if you actually stopped chasing useless things and instead tried to stay silent with a goal in mind? Let me give you some useful tips to make this easier.

Environment and Planning

They say that the environment you swim in reflects what you are and what you will be, and that’s true to an extent – that’s why you should do everything you can to bend it to your needs by:

  • Making your work environment like a top-secret military base, people need some kind of clearance to access it so they won’t bother you. BE A MAD SCIENTIST, WAHAHA!
  • Have your workspace tidy and smell good. It calms your nerves.
  • Open the windows and let the air flow.
  • Specify or write down all the tasks you need to do for the day and tackle them with a 50min work and 10min rest tempo – or however it works for you.
  • Big tasks in the morning, lighter ones in the evening.
  • Turn off your phone and disconnect from the Internet if not required to do work.

Mindset and Planning (2)

  • For the day(s) you need to concentrate be sure to not have any kind of commitments to other people. Maintaining that focus streak is key to later build a habit!
  • Be excited. Of course you need to have a reason to this, so i hope you’re working on something that resonates with you.
  • Approach the tasks with “the sooner I do it, the better” mindset. It’ll give you a weird (aka guilt?) boost.

Extra but priceless!

  • Stay hydrated. By doing so you ensure that all your bodily functions are in top notch shape and can work properly, 2L a day is ideal.
  • Have a snack for when it gets rough. Carbs = Sugars = Energy, Easy.
  • Cut off the noise with some good music or white noise, if you’re like me. It really puts me in “the zone”.
  • Motivation. I wouldn’t use it too much because i consider it a feeble force, but sometimes a quick burst of it from some motivational videos could do the trick.
  • Breathe. Deeply. This allows your blood to flow and your nerves to relax, some meditation before doing the work is even better.
  • Remember to stretch\do some push-ups between breaks! Just do it.

There are many more tips i could list, but these’ll have to do for today – can’t put all my eggs in one basket after all!

Tell me if some of these tips actually helped you, and how you usually keep yourself in check when it comes to focus, i’d love to hear your take!

Take care,

-V

HOW TO DEAL WITH COPYCATS: THE QUICK WAY

Aaaaah…copycats. Aren’t they lovely? at least once in life everyone had one on their necks…may it be for something “lighter” like copying your style and how you speak, or something “heavy” like full-on copying your personality and way of life. Maybe some of you STILL have one that’s bothering you and can’t seem to shake off no matter how much time passes. Worry not, i’m going to explain you why you needn’t worry about them.

Let’s start by saying that usually, copycats that “matters” are somewhat close to you, they’re usually friends and family but they can even be simple acquaintances. What the copycat is doing is trying to get an overall idea of what you’re doing so he\she can copy you…exactly, they don’t even bother digging in. After all the only thing they care about is to APPEAR as good as you, when in reality they’re not. That’s why usually their facades tend to last a little while. This is the standard copycat. Just forget about him\her and go on with your life (this remains true even with business copycats), this kind of copycat will have a “short life”, just wait and see.

Then there’s another form of copycat that it’s a little more extreme and it’s actually very annoying and can be frustrating to have around. This one will be probably someone very close to you like a friend – and they usually use the deep bond they’ve formed with you to get to know you better so they can pull off a well crafted act. At first this person may look like he\she’s admiring you or really likes you when in reality it’s just trying to mimic you because of a simple fact:

These people LACK personality.
And that’s why you shouldn’t be concerned.

Because after a while, people around them (and you) will start noticing this, too!

I know, it’s frustrating at first, but see it like this – they decided to copy you in the first place because you are original and unique! it’s not like they can reproduce your awesomeness just by a mere act, originality it’s something that CANNOT BE COPIED. THAT’S WHY IT’S CALLED LIKE THIS. No matter how hard they try, they’ll look like fools.

Just distance yourself from these people and keep on doing you. You’ll forget them in a matter of hours! you have to be ruthless with the distancing though, the more reason to do so in the case of a family member doing this. You HAVE to make them feel like something’s not right – and that they will gain nothing by trying to emulate your persona.

Because in the end the only people that are TRULY appreciated are the ones that can stay true to themselves and don’t have the need to be someone else to be accepted.

Appereance Matters For Your Success, See Why.

“Never judge a book by its cover”

That’s how the saying goes, right?

Well, this is half true – in fact, when first meeting someone it’s completely OK to guess some things here and there, but how’s this related to your success? let’s take a look.

Thing is, the first impression you have on someone hugely impacts how they’re going to perceive you afterwards. Let’s take the example of a business meeting: If you made sure to leave a good impression beforehand, you can be sure that the rest of the meeting will go much smoother than it would’ve gone if you hadn’t taken that “countermeasure”.

The reason is because your appearance says A LOT about you.

  • How do you carry yourself?: How’s your posture, straight and confident, or weak and twitchy? do you walk like you mean it, or are you crawling like a worm? is your head high and your eyes full of fire, or you always keep your head down?
  • The way you speak: Sounding confident when speaking it’s key. If you don’t believe in what you’re saying, how are others supposed to take you seriously? when you talk it feels like you’re whispering? welp, don’t do that – make yourself heard! now, don’t go screaming because it’s bad manners and it’s unsightly – keep a constant and pleasant tone. Don’t stutter while talking, being fluent and slick gives you more credibility and overall it’s nice and soothing to hear someone who can talk.
  • Your Self esteem: Do you take yourself too seriously like you’re some kind of deity, or make a fool out of yourself whenever the chance is presented to you? DON’T. You must inspire admiration while being able to laugh at yourself from time to time. Remember, if you don’t respect yourself others won’t follow suit.
  • How you dress yourself: Of course, dressing like some kind of bum won’t cut it. Again, if you want others to love you as much as you do – you have to make the effort to make them see how much you love yourself. Dress to impress! that doesn’t mean you have to wear tailored suits every day and pay hundreds of dollars for your clothes. Of course you can play the cheap card, it doesn’t matter if your shoes are worth 1000$ or 5$ – you can impress even if you don’t have money for fancy stuff. Be sure to wear clean and fresh clothes with no wrinkles – groom yourself if you’re a man, cut your hair and keep up good personal hygiene! it’ll make you stand out from others.

What about what’s inside though? 😦

Of course, in the end it doesn’t matter if outside you’re a “looker” and inside you’re empty as the pot i used to make homemade curry last night.

Being a wholesome human being (of course) comes before all of this – having an identity, values you treasure and things you’ll stand up for, what i want you to understand is that…

sometimes in life a good impression can make a huge difference in the outcome of your success, because people are inherently looking for all these little traits that define a great individual you would do business or start some sort of relationship with.

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The Importance Of Discipline + A Little Update

*little update*
Hello there!

I hope you are doing well, i’m just writing this post as some kind of catch-up caused by some troublesome and hectic weeks. I’ve been busy cooking some exciting stuff (for me, at least!) and doing my usual work\homework…yup, because you never stop learning! these business ventures i’m getting into are scarce with results and incredibly slow…but hey, like in fitness or in whatever area that takes time to let you see some results you just have to keep at it.

The world hasn’t been build by doing nothing, now, has it? ;D

BUT ENOUGH WITH ME, LET’S GET TO THE FUN PART!
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Discipline.

Thing’s simple: You either want to have it or not. It is not up to debate that having it while struggling to reach your goals will radically improve your chances of succeeding. YET a lot of people seem to discount it, and seeing the ones who do engage in having this quality as “up-tight” and “no fun”. That’s because they don’t know what they’re talking about, and they’re usually the same kind of people that have a job they hate and family\relationship problems who’d rather spend their weekends getting wasted with their buddies instead of putting in some meaningful work in to CHANGE their colorless lives.

Don’t get me wrong, i’m all in for some beer once in a while – but the thing i can’t condone is… making it a ritual, a recurrent thing.

Like, really? Don’t you have anything better to do instead of destroying your livers and gossip about others (or even among themselves!) about how Christine cheated on Larry? damn you’re boring.

I understand.
I really do.
“But then i’d become a freak without social life!”
Nope. I didn’t say you needed to become an a-hole – what i mean is :

BE IRREMOVABLE WHEN IT COMES TO THE THINGS YOU’RE WORKING ON AND CARE ABOUT.

That’ll be the exact point where your life will take a turn, and you will see results without a doubt. Why?
Because you was laser-focused all this time and didn’t budge or stray off your path.

If you want me to go deeper on this topic and explain to you how to effectively apply discipline to your everyday tasks in a way that YOU TOO can reach your goals, leave a comment below.

And as always,

Take care.

-V

CAN YOU RELY ON MOTIVATION TO SUCCEED?

While i think that motivation is indeed valuable when it comes to succeeding in your endeavors , i think it’s an overrated force to rely on constantly since it fluctuates A LOT, it’s feeble. Sometimes you just have to soldier through…but let me give you some advice on what you can use instead.

Let’s begin.

1)THE WILL TO DO GOOD
Kindness and selflessness it’s something you can use to achieve your goals, people blindly follows someone who practice these things…because they’re inspiring and are a positive force overall. With these qualities you will build an incredible and faithful FOLLOWING – that can help you eventually to achieve whatever you want, remember… there is power in numbers. but even more power in quality numbers.

2)THE NEED TO CHANGE
Sometimes the most basic impulse or need it’s what does the trick. In this case, the urgency emerging from you really wanting to change yourself is the key. Saying: “STOP! I’ll get this over with” and remaining truthful and accountable to yourself or others on the words you’ve spoken might be what you need.

These are all good and useful mindsets to approach success with…but…

What about…

3) HATRED & RAGE
That’s right. What? you’re offended? what? you think nothing good can come out of these two emotions?

Well you’re fucking wrong.

While i agree on the fact that these emotions are negative and can be an overwhelming destructive force, you need to understand that are STILL, just emotions, And as such they can be harnessed, controlled and used as a fuel, converting them in an instead overwhelming and in my opinion unparalleled constructive power.

Think about it.

What if when your girlfriend cheated on you, instead of using all that hate and sadness to blame her and yourself while drinking your soul out you used them to get in shape, take the next daring step in your career or whatever? Feel those powerful emotions and use them to your own gain, they’re ENERGY, you can redirect them – it’s up to you to convert these raw emotions into something good, you’re the pipe through which eventually these will pass from, so why wouldn’t you be able to control the output of it?

TRY IT, the next time you’ll be overtaken by these feelings and you will be unstoppable.

But be careful, this 3rd method it’s not easy to pull off (while still completely doable) because it could backfire and consume you as these emotions, as i’ve already stated, are very strong – so it’s ultimately up to you to decide if you can do it. If unsure, go for the first two- are safer and they might take longer, but they’re worth the effort.

Let me know what’s your take on this.

Take care,

-V

ARE VIDEO GAMES REALLY BAD FOR YOU AND YOUR SUCCESS IN LIFE?

Aaaah, Games, you either love them or hate them.
There is always a big fuss when it comes if they’re bad for you or your kids, you would think they’re just a waste of time right? IT DEPENDS, Let’s find out.

The fact is that video games have a lot of negative aspects to them IF misused… but you’ll be surprised to know that normally, the things a video game can do for you are more positive than anything. Now, i might be a little bit biased, because i play games since i was 5 years old, i started with the NES and then followed up with every major (and minor) console that came out, as well as some PC gaming, and surprise surprise i’m a game developer, too! so i think i know a bit of stuff when it comes to the argument.

Let’s start with one of my favorite topics, SUCCESS & BUSINESS!

One would think that playing videogames automatically means that the person doing so is a failure and would imagine a guy\kid locking himself up in a dark room for hours and hours, discounting all kind of social interactions and physical activity (and personal hygiene, yuck!) that surely would benefit him, but i can tell you that is not ALWAYS the case.

Along with the 3rd, this 2nd Mega Man game might be my one of my favorite games of all time.

If you ask me what of my personality i value most, i would answer with: Resilience. And my ability to do hard things and be in stressful situations and environments. And would you believe me if i said that said skill\trait is something i acquired and then polished – while playing videogames? Exactly, that’s how.

My interminable and frustrating runs at Megaman, my adventures while playing Metroid, Ghosts’n goblins, Dragon Quest, all the difficult bosses and situations that i faced in these and endless other games helped me develop something very important…

BEING ACCUSTOMED TO FAILURE.

I’ve practiced FAILING and RETRYING in a “safe” space\environment, in which failing didn’t really matter as much as failing in real life, my defeats didn’t actually kill me, leave me jobless or without a roof upon my head, instead they forged me and gave me the WILL to try again and again, approaching every single enemy and situation with a different mindset and way of seeing things! and now i have incredible assets that are keeping me from feeling defeated, lost or demotivated when i fail at something – be it minor or major – in life.

I encourage you to pick up some of these (or other) games and actually give them a chance in your spare time, and see how much you can learn from them ABOUT YOU, and YOUR LIMITS.

So please, before categorizing videogames as “dangerous” in any way, shape or form, approach the whole argument with an open mind and the will to learn from something that is not actually “real” and see how many concrete and positive things these virtual experiences can give you, because it’s not just a training to real life, games can help people to cope with depression and\or bad feelings overall as well as narrate beautiful stories in an engaging way – in a way that only videogames can do.

Until next time,
Take care.

-V

HELLO, I’M V! SSSSSUP HOT PEPPERS?

HELLO THERE!

This is a different post from the ones i usually do, WO-HO! I hope you are doing well and that Obi-wan put a smile on you for today.

SO! what’s going on?

This blogging experience has been interesting so far, as you can see i’m a fairly new blogger and need to get the hang of things…but i’m liking the gist of it. 😀
I’ve had something in a *WIP* (Work in progress) state for a while aaaaand let me just share what it is with you.

If you hoppity hop around my blog you can see that i mostly talk about success/business/fitness and mindsets… (BUT, soon there’ll be videogames too! woh) all passions of mine.

BUT LATELY… I’M WORKING ON AN AWESOME GUIDE ON HOW TO LOSE WEIGHT AND PUT ON MUSCLE MASS (FOR ALL LEVELS)!

I’ll admit it, it’s not easy and it’s a lot of work, but i’m sure it will help a ton of people that really want to change themselves on a deeper level, so yeah it’s not officially ready YET but it’ll be … soon.

On the other hand i’m mysteriously working to achieve goals and dreams of mine, so that’s all i can disclose for the time being, but HEY! i’d like to know y’all here in the blogging scene, i would love to meet more awesome people and have a chitchat about what your hobbies are, and know you as an individual! …since my articles have been pretty silent overall…ahahah…ahahah…AHAH-…AH.

YYYYYYYUP.

The more the merrier, right?

So don’t be shy! and let’s know each other- HUZZAH!!!

UHM….
Take care!

-V

STOP PLAYING HIDE AND SEEK WITH YOUR AGE.

Many thinks that with age comes stillness, stalemates, difficulties and another myriad of things which will prevent them to attain success, but this is not how this works! So don’t discount yourself as “done”, and keep on reading.

First off: If you have the mindset which is described above, you’re WRONG, and that’s because age it is not a determining factor when it comes to success- you’re simply putting shackles on yourself without even trying and doing the work needed to succeed. It simply means that you are content to keep things this way, after all, success it’s not for everybody. DON’T USE AGE AS AN EXCUSE.

Take famous AND successful people as an example, a lot of them didn’t succeed in their efforts early in life, the other way around instead!

  • Samuel Jackson
Jackson was 46 before he found success (and in recovery from addiction to cocaine and heroin)
  • Ray Kroc
Founder of McDonald’s – had passed his 50’s before buying his first McDonald’s and creating a worldwide phenomenon
  • Charles Darwin
He was 50 years old before he published “On the Origin of the Species” in 1859

And these Men are just a FEW examples.

But did you know that instead, succeeding when you’re young has actually quite a few drawbacks?
Such as:

  • You could get TOO comfortable with what you have achieved and as result you’d end up not innovating.
  • You don’t have enough experience – and might misuse\misinterpreted whatever tools or situation you have at that precise moment and as a consequence bring your demise.
  • You could get blinded by success -and let your ego poison your mind, a very common error among young people.

Of course, these situations are a bit generic and could be applied to older people as well, but they do occur more early in life. And as such, a well trained eye that has recognized how to pick up opportunities could come in handy.

In the end, success is what you make of it, if you’ve always taken next to no action when it comes to your desires and ambitions it’s clear as a thousand suns exploding in front of your nose that you WON’T cut it IF you stay put.

But HOW can poor you do it :((?

STOP MAKING EXCUSES AND TAKE THE PLUNGE.
I think this quote sums it all up.

“Study while others are sleeping; work while others are loafing; prepare while others are playing; and dream while others are wishing. “

-William A. Ward

Take care,

-V

THE CHANCES YOU (DIDN’T) TAKE.

Did you know that a really low number of people make decisions that are fully made by themselves?

You may think that can’t be true, but most people find difficult staying true to themselves when it comes to choices and in life, and this happens mostly because they fall to the pressure of their peers, their family, friends or even strangers – in my book this is a symptom of a low\absent self-esteem and nonexistent beliefs.

Of course this could pass as a lack of decision-making skills, too! but as human beings and in society we are most aware when it comes to other’s judgment and the way they see us. Though this lack can be reconnected to a low self-esteem that comes by not having a clear direction or goal in life. Think at all the chances you may have missed for having temporized or stuttered when making a decision – be it for fear of other’s judgement or for not having the courage to throw yourself into something seemingly bigger than you.

“I could have my dream life right now… IF ONLY!

Yeah, right.
How about we start actually doing that?

I’ll give you an exercise:
The next time you happen to dine in a restaurant along with your spouse, parents, or a group of friends – try to be the first that knows what you’re going to eat, and when you can do that give yourself a pat on the back because you’re on the road to improvement. You can implement this kind of mindset even when you’re at the grocery store buying stuff for the week, or deciding which shortcut to take when going home, the possibilities are endless.

Of course this is just a warm up for the bigger decisions you will have to take in life, but the next time you have to take such action be prepared and sure on what to do so you won’t miss AGAIN the best chance at your disposal for whatever it’ll happen. And here i will share you on another little secret…

Be sure to have a dream.

Because when you do, you will see that most decisions in life will come automatically AND without regret because your subconscious mind will be choosing the best course of action to reach your dream.

Take care,

-V.

QUIET IS IN YOU, JUST LISTEN TO IT.

Sometimes in life there are things that CANNOT be dealt with thought and being active. By “being active” i don’t mean not taking action, because that’s something i go against in this blog and in life – but instead what i mean is to let things cease to exist for a brief period of time

In a way in which you can temporarily forget your current challenge and focus, on being silent and still – in this way all of your emotions will slowly leak out of your body and mind, and as a consequence you will be able to experience tranquility and the ability to tackle that challenge again but this time with a clear and THINKING MIND – not a chaotic and OVERTHINKING one. Stepping aside to take time to realize the situation for what actually is and not letting your emotions control you, it’s the first step to solve that situation.

But how can you do that? well, there are multiple ways…
My favorites:

  • Dropping everything and going for a walk in nature possibly
  • Taking some time alone to sip on something hot, like tea
  • Working out like a monster!

But the one i rely the most on is Meditation.

That, is the only way for you to go deeper and feel the “nothingness” you so desperately crave and need to solve your challenges. And trust me, after you get the hang of it and your session is over you will feel nothing but good feelings, and a clearer and lucid mind overall.
So take some time for yourself, relax your whole body and take a few deep breaths while trying to adjust your breathing in a way that remains deep effortlessly. But then again, meditation is very personal and you need to incorporate it in your life before you will see results, but when you do… the shift you’re going to feel is going to be…

LIFECHANGING.


Take care, and tell me what you think about this.

STOP SABOTAGING YOURSELF

We all know that having a negative attitude only leads to disappointment and frustration, yet a lot of people easily fall prey to it. Why is that? it’s because you have no choice but to do so? it is because it’s impossible to be positive? NAH.

You simply don’t want to.

The reason?
Because it’s easy to blame others, but hard to blame yourself.

You don’t want to feel insecure or that you can’t accomplish something because of some flaws you might have. You don’t want to deal with the negative emotions that will come after you realize that in reality, it is your fault.
Think about it like this though:
If it’s your fault… you can solve it.
Exactly. You can’t control what others will do to you, but you can control your actions.

If you can’t lift 100kg while doing a bench press, is it the weight’s fault? sounds stupid right?
It’s just because you’re not strong YET to do so.

And this applies in the emotional sphere too! if someone insulted you and you’d feel personally attacked and become angry, this means that you are not in control of your emotions, you let others control you. So you can see how this mindset it’s not very useful when it comes to achieving any kind of goal, because in one way or another in life you will ALWAYS encounter negativity paired with challenges.

Once you recognize your faults and flaws and you concentrate on the positive and the things YOU CAN CONTROL like your feelings, Only then you will be able to see – pinpoint – and smooth or gain whatever thing you’re lacking right now.

THE REASON WHY YOUR LIFE IS AT A STALEMATE

So you think you have it all figured out huh? then explain to me why your life is not vibrant and brimming with colors and excitement, instead it’s all bleak and flavorless? don’t have the answer? don’t worry, I’ll give it to you – it’s because you’re frozen…

frozen by FEAR.

But don’t get me wrong, I was too. It’s not like I’m some kind of magical creature that knows everything and has the solution to all your problems. I’m not special – I’m a human being just like you, the only thing that is different and that I overcame that fear.

The Fear of change,

The Fear of loving again after being hurt,

The Fear of failure,

The Fear of success,

The Fear of being trapped in an endless abyss with all my Fears.

But YOU can change that.

Just like I did, you just need to acknowledge that Fear, don’t try and hide it from yourself and others, DON’T run from it, whatever that is – otherwise it will stick to you and will keep on getting stronger and stronger IT WILL DRAIN YOU!, the sooner you take action to face that fear, the sooner you will be free from a burden that held you back from manifesting your true potential in every area of your life.

Want to know how to?

Here’s the trick:

  • Step out of your bubble, your comfort zone, that is where you will stack up your fears and worries, leave it and see things from another perspective.
  • Afraid of social interactions? Go out and meet people.
  • Afraid of failure? Keep trying, keep failing.
  • Afraid of living a life that’s not yours? Leave it behind along with everything that you don’t need.
  • Afraid of not being good enough? BE good enough.

Now, what is that all these things have in common?

Exactly… ACTION.

If you ACT you don’t have time to think about fear, because you’re moving forward, because you’re going for the throat and by extension, if YOU MOVE, if YOU DO what you’re saying you’re going to do, fear can’t keep up with you and cast its shadow upon you.

It’s your choice, a simple one,

Think about it, what if you just did whatever you’re afraid of?

Your life will change dramatically,

But you have to do it, switch your brain and emotions off and dive in.

What happened? Exactly, you’re still alive at the end of it, and now you have conquered your fears.

“Don’t fear failure. Not failure, but low aim, is the crime. In great attempts it is glorious even to fail.”
-Bruce Lee

*Art by Kevmesser from deviantart.com*

MASCULINITY AND THE POWER TO OVERCOME

My last article ended with a quote from a person whom i admire very much, Bruce Lee, and i thought that linking him to today’s topic was a thing i felt it was right. Bruce, in my book – is a perfect example of Masculinity : He was an overall achiever, he had objectives on which he never gave up (The acting career) and he was, and probably still is the greatest Martial Artist the world has ever known.

Masculinity today, at times it’s seen like a (and let me put emphasis on the quotes) “”Toxic”” trait. I personally completely disagree with that, as it is something that’s intrinsic to the very nature of a man, how can something we’re born with be toxic? and apart from that, masculinity is a very strong and positive force, Men are moved because of it, are inspired to do good because of it, they take ACTION to better their (and other’s!) life because of it. I will link you to a channel that explains this in a very good way – it’s a short video but it’s full of meaning when confronted with a lot of stupid nonsense some people are spouting nowadays. Watch it if you have time :

Now, why do i link masculinity with Bruce Lee though? well, i personally think that when a Man rises against all odds to realize something that’s really important for him – that’s when he really shines. Bruce was the peak of human strength and performance, but he didn’t accomplish all of this overnight, of course – behind his success there’s a tortuous and long process with which he achieved his strength. While he simply liked to stay in shape but more importantly to Fight, in this way he wanted to show others (but first and foremost he did this for himself, to better its abilities) that he was better at it – you know, some good competition that gave as a fruit the obvious, sought after byproduct of Mastery.

And here comes the good part :

But why does a man put himself into so much trouble to accomplish something? you’d think it’s just to satisfy himself right?

Yes…
BUT NO.

While Martial arts can be seen as destructive, some Men (and Women, even though these traits are more prominent in Men) teach them not to just “be stronger” which in itself is a consequence – but to Protect something, someone, dear to them.
The rising of certain characteristics such as Heroism, Selflessness, Sacrifice, Kindness, Relentlessness – always spurs because of a greater reason that you can’t see on the surface, martial arts it’s just an example very dear to me, but there are countless different situations – as you’ve seen in the video – where masculinity can be applied to.

In the end, i don’t think that masculinity should be overwhelmed with attacks that won’t really go anywhere, as it’s not synonym of violence, as some degenerates love to claim.

Like femininity, masculinity it’s simply a collection of traits found since the birth of human beings, into men. For either sexes to not express themselves like nature programmed them to, it’s foolish and unnatural in my honest opinion, and what REALLY should be “condemned” it’s the toxicity of an individual itself. No one, and i repeat : NO ONE should be attacked and belittled for expressing these beautiful qualities that makes humanity – Human.

If you’d like to join into this peaceful and constructive conversation, please DO comment below. I’d love to know what you think of the matter and of this article.

Have a great day!
Take care.

Changing yourself AND rising over adversity

Here’s an example of 懐石 (Kaiseki Ryori) A traditional kind of Gourmet cuisine from Japan, composed by a lot of little different dishes, behind each one there’s a different taste, texture, techniques, shapes and colors.

Whether you like it or not – CHANGE is the only way to keep yourself relevant.

But why do i say that? isn’t being “stable” in life, considered a wiser and risk-free alternative? Might be, but is it as effective when it comes to overcoming the challenges that life presents you with on a daily basis? Let me explain :

You may be wondering by now why i have introduced you to this topic with a brief explanation of Kaiseki Ryori, and you might be saying : “What is this dude even talking about?! Food and challenges?” HEY, just hear me out, it’s all… connected.

Just how each and every little dish that this traditional way of caressing an individual’s palate enables the client to experience the multilayered flavors of the course, you too have some tools at your disposal that can help you see and act… differently.

I’m talking about Habits. In this kind of cuisine, a lot of different flavors are used, mixed and matched with a specific technique related to the dish itself, and by doing so the main protagonist of the dish has all of its characteristic enhanced, set and ready to give its best in the client’s mouth – If you think about it and try to apply this mindset when approaching your problems, it’s EASILY more effective because you’re tackling the problem with all the tools and methods you need to solve it. The tricky thing though is developing these habits – these little foundations on which, in my opinion, a person should be based on.

These habits may vary from individual, but i’d like to list a few of my favorites :

  • Consuming Healthy & Nutritious Food
  • Exercise regularly
  • Being more Disciplined
  • Learn new things everyday

If you have a strong mind and a strong body, and by extent – some good habits – you will find that dealing with your problems becomes incredibly easier, here i just gave you a bunch of examples, but habits can be adapted pretty much anywhere because you create and maintain them to suit YOUR needs. For example : Are you afraid of social interactions and you wish you were more talkative and affable? Create a habit to talk to at least one random stranger a day, without resorting to the same topic. You will see that after a week it’ll feel a lot better and you improved. In the end, habits are tools that you must master and keep on repeatingly use so you can reap fruits out of them.

It doesn’t take much, you just need to make the first step and then keeping on making other little steps, you can be sure to see amazing results by doing this – And as i was comparing all the little attentions and ways of cooking a specific food, habits are exactly the same thing, little details that’ll make things good.

So you can clearly see that by NOT changing, experimenting and trying things out by making the first step – not only you’d devoid yourself of being able to see things in a new light, at the same time you would be making yourself a disservice by lacking your tools for being able to solve your problems. Being flexible and forcing yourself to adapt is Key.

And now i will end my point with one of my favorite quotes from one of my favorite inspiring individual :

” Empty your mind, be formless, shapeless — like water. Now you put water in a cup, it becomes the cup; You put water into a bottle it becomes the bottle; You put it in a teapot it becomes the teapot. Now water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend. “

– Bruce Lee

Thanks for reading,
Take care.

Imagine : Freedom

This post is inspired by : https://nav.al/

I was going through his website and a lot of things began to whirl into my mind, go check him out, it DESERVES your time, if you’re into changing yourself & creating wealth to achieve what i’m going to talk about.

Freedom. Ahhh, so longed. yet not too much to make an individual stop and think : “Hey, maybe breaking my back every day at this job i hate isn’t the right way to achieve it“. And why would this thought ever cross a mind of anyone leading this kind of lifestyle? It won’t, right? though sometimes it can happen, the thought process will just probably end with affirmations like these : “It’s too risky” , “I can’t do that, i’m not capable enough“, “What if i fail? No, i don’t want to live on the streets, i’m fine like this, it could be worse for me.” – These are all understandable thoughts, i had these thoughts too in the past. But don’t you think that by doing this, a person it’s just putting shackles on themselves? how can you know how much can you lift without ever clinching the barbell? You can’t. And by doing this you’re automatically killing your chances to take a shot at True Freedom.

But what do i mean when i say “True Freedom”? it’s nothing special, really, though its values and significance may vary from person to person, the core principle is this : You can structure, use and manage your time in whichever way you find fit. That means that if you want to sleep\go visit the world\ spend your time doing what you love, you can do that without a care in the world… or almost. Because to do that you need to have some kind of income, right? and you may ask what kind of work gives you THAT much freedom and flexibility… i’d say, work you cherish and love – work that you ENJOY doing and at the same time covers all of your expenses even without you actively managing it. This is called “Passive Income” – you basically make money when you’re away, when you sleep, ecc… So yeah, starting your own business! – and you might say “Duh! if it was this easy everyone would do it.” Yeah, i personally don’t think that’s easy, since i am too on this journey to achieve everything that i’m telling you… but put it like this : Do you think you’re just… one of the “Everyone”? you don’t know that until you really challenge yourself and your ideals, and yes, of course it’s not easy – but would you rather do something easy that keeps you in the same spot, angry, sad, without any Freedom or time to live the life YOU want… or would you rather do something Difficult – but definitely doable, and live a life it’s worth living?

Do NOT underestimate yourself and the ability to change your situation, YOU hold the keys to do so, no one else.

So… i did a little thingy – let’s start.

I tried to start this gig where i’ll instruct you on how to lose weight and build muscle. I’m currently building all the material necessary for the time i’ll need to ship it, so yeah, it’s a lot of work but it’s pretty exciting, and if you’d like to give it a shot, i have multiple options to choose from! so check it out on Fiverr :

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Now, if you have any feedback or whatever, just contact me, i’d really appreciate any chance to improve :] business and brand building is a new venture for me and it’s exciting. Meanwhile i have some pretty amazing stuff cooking in the pot, so stay tuned for that and for some free goodies.

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