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2 Unpopular (But Not Really) Reasons On Why Women Feel Lost.

Ever wondered why the number of single women (and men) in their 20’s & 30’s it’s skyrocketing, and IT WILL keep on doing so in the near future? The root of the problem it’s not complicated by all means, instead it’s easily solvable but it NEEDS to be addressed. Let me explain:

“SLUT CULTURE”

One of the more prominent reasons of this single tendency it’s surely due to this “fake freedom” aimed to fill the void (generated by whatever reason) with hookups and short-lived relationships. Both Men & Women who do engage consistently in such behaviors are usually missing values, are hurt or do not find reasons to STICK with someone in the long run.

They’d rather fall prey to that feeble rush of dopamine and pleasure instead to look at the big picture.

This it’s even more notable on younger generations. So, little to no values AND personality = short lived relationships.

Sorry to break it to ya. (Not really)

LACK OF DIRECTION

This is something that MEN have to take full responsibility for.

While some of you ladies won’t admit it (The good and self-aware ladies will) Women love to be “directed”, to be given a path to follow, a world to fall into,

(And before you get triggered – this has nothing to do with being controlled or “equality” or being in a “lower position”, wake the f**k up and stop with that childish nonsense.)

If you’re ugly as her, that might be another reason why you’re single.

Women usually love a Man who can lead the way, someone to follow, who is strong and knows how to navigate life and take decisions.

But Women usually settle or won’t bother to find a man who can do all that BECAUSE THERE’S A LACK- of this kind of Men all around, Ambitionless men who wander the earth, ugh.

And end up in a relationship with a soft man or they rather not be in one at all.

BUT WHY IS THE SITUATION SO UGLY?

One of the causes is that society it’s trying to steer the wheel towards a “sexless” society.

Men are being feminized, while being weak it’s now the norm,

And that can’t be good, as humanity has thrived all these years because of distinction between male AND female.

Because we both have our strengths and weaknesses, and we’re at the best of our abilities when we join and support each other in a caring and solid way.

AND, IF YOU HAPPEN TO BE ONE OF THESE “WEAK MEN”, (OR WOMAN) YOU SHOULD LISTEN FOR A SECOND:

There’s no shame in being weak,
But in remaining that way.

You’re flaccid and want to take your life by the balls, and take back control.

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Gratitude And its Jewels.

Sometimes, or a lot of times I should say, I find myself in deep thought – the kind of thinking in which you’re not satisfied until you’ve explored every single facet of that thought, its pros & cons, its consequences, the impact that may have if you actually carried on with following through with that thought. That’s how i “met” gratitude.

But what is gratitude?

I think that gratitude is not just a feeling, not something you can get instantly like anger, joy, and happiness. Instead, it’s… A state of being.

Something that you can only discover day by day as you continuously move through life by being grateful and giving thanks:

For the air you breathe,

For the food you eat,

For the pain you feel,

For the chance you’ve been given to LIVE.

Those are just some examples, but you can be grateful for whatever you want really, for your enriching relationships and the people that loves you, for the material possessions that are helping you to live life with more comfort…the possibilities are endless, you can find gratitude everywhere – you just have to be still and…actually look for it, feel it, wait for the feeling to manifest, don’t force it because it will happen naturally.

What if all these things that you take for granted suddenly disappeared from your life- how would you feel? wouldn’t you rather feel at peace with everything around you?

I know I do.

The gifts of gratitude are very concrete yet very abstract in my opinion. At times gratitude won’t make itself visible until you’ve lost something very valuable to you, even. Only then you will understand. But just losing something won’t let you experience it, you must couple the loss you feel with the feeling and decision to Start over and try searching for it, especially if you just came out of a difficult situation.

Then, in the end, after you’ve been through all this and finally started giving value to everything important in your life, only THEN those gifts will appear, you will be at peace with yourself and everything that surrounds you, you will have a new outlook on life- and the problems that before seemed daunting and caused you anxiety or trouble will seem trivial and funny! and these are only minor effects that gratitude will cast upon you.

BUT...

You must take the lifelong effort of searching, maintaining and expressing that feeling NO MATTER WHAT.


In a way that someday will become who you are:

Truly grateful.

ARE VIDEO GAMES REALLY BAD FOR YOU AND YOUR SUCCESS IN LIFE?

Aaaah, Games, you either love them or hate them.
There is always a big fuss when it comes if they’re bad for you or your kids, you would think they’re just a waste of time right? IT DEPENDS, Let’s find out.

The fact is that video games have a lot of negative aspects to them IF misused… but you’ll be surprised to know that normally, the things a video game can do for you are more positive than anything. Now, i might be a little bit biased, because i play games since i was 5 years old, i started with the NES and then followed up with every major (and minor) console that came out, as well as some PC gaming, and surprise surprise i’m a game developer, too! so i think i know a bit of stuff when it comes to the argument.

Let’s start with one of my favorite topics, SUCCESS & BUSINESS!

One would think that playing videogames automatically means that the person doing so is a failure and would imagine a guy\kid locking himself up in a dark room for hours and hours, discounting all kind of social interactions and physical activity (and personal hygiene, yuck!) that surely would benefit him, but i can tell you that is not ALWAYS the case.

Along with the 3rd, this 2nd Mega Man game might be my one of my favorite games of all time.

If you ask me what of my personality i value most, i would answer with: Resilience. And my ability to do hard things and be in stressful situations and environments. And would you believe me if i said that said skill\trait is something i acquired and then polished – while playing videogames? Exactly, that’s how.

My interminable and frustrating runs at Megaman, my adventures while playing Metroid, Ghosts’n goblins, Dragon Quest, all the difficult bosses and situations that i faced in these and endless other games helped me develop something very important…

BEING ACCUSTOMED TO FAILURE.

I’ve practiced FAILING and RETRYING in a “safe” space\environment, in which failing didn’t really matter as much as failing in real life, my defeats didn’t actually kill me, leave me jobless or without a roof upon my head, instead they forged me and gave me the WILL to try again and again, approaching every single enemy and situation with a different mindset and way of seeing things! and now i have incredible assets that are keeping me from feeling defeated, lost or demotivated when i fail at something – be it minor or major – in life.

I encourage you to pick up some of these (or other) games and actually give them a chance in your spare time, and see how much you can learn from them ABOUT YOU, and YOUR LIMITS.

So please, before categorizing videogames as “dangerous” in any way, shape or form, approach the whole argument with an open mind and the will to learn from something that is not actually “real” and see how many concrete and positive things these virtual experiences can give you, because it’s not just a training to real life, games can help people to cope with depression and\or bad feelings overall as well as narrate beautiful stories in an engaging way – in a way that only videogames can do.

Until next time,
Take care.

-V

THE REASON WHY YOUR LIFE IS AT A STALEMATE

So you think you have it all figured out huh? then explain to me why your life is not vibrant and brimming with colors and excitement, instead it’s all bleak and flavorless? don’t have the answer? don’t worry, I’ll give it to you – it’s because you’re frozen…

frozen by FEAR.

But don’t get me wrong, I was too. It’s not like I’m some kind of magical creature that knows everything and has the solution to all your problems. I’m not special – I’m a human being just like you, the only thing that is different and that I overcame that fear.

The Fear of change,

The Fear of loving again after being hurt,

The Fear of failure,

The Fear of success,

The Fear of being trapped in an endless abyss with all my Fears.

But YOU can change that.

Just like I did, you just need to acknowledge that Fear, don’t try and hide it from yourself and others, DON’T run from it, whatever that is – otherwise it will stick to you and will keep on getting stronger and stronger IT WILL DRAIN YOU!, the sooner you take action to face that fear, the sooner you will be free from a burden that held you back from manifesting your true potential in every area of your life.

Want to know how to?

Here’s the trick:

  • Step out of your bubble, your comfort zone, that is where you will stack up your fears and worries, leave it and see things from another perspective.
  • Afraid of social interactions? Go out and meet people.
  • Afraid of failure? Keep trying, keep failing.
  • Afraid of living a life that’s not yours? Leave it behind along with everything that you don’t need.
  • Afraid of not being good enough? BE good enough.

Now, what is that all these things have in common?

Exactly… ACTION.

If you ACT you don’t have time to think about fear, because you’re moving forward, because you’re going for the throat and by extension, if YOU MOVE, if YOU DO what you’re saying you’re going to do, fear can’t keep up with you and cast its shadow upon you.

It’s your choice, a simple one,

Think about it, what if you just did whatever you’re afraid of?

Your life will change dramatically,

But you have to do it, switch your brain and emotions off and dive in.

What happened? Exactly, you’re still alive at the end of it, and now you have conquered your fears.

“Don’t fear failure. Not failure, but low aim, is the crime. In great attempts it is glorious even to fail.”
-Bruce Lee

*Art by Kevmesser from deviantart.com*