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Have Some Fancy And Cozy Holidays, Will You?

HAPPY HOLIDAYS!

‘Tis just a fairly laid back post to wish you all the best for this holidays’s season, whether you’ll be with family or alone please do me a solid and slip into your pajamas and brew some piping hot chocolate (or what’s best for ya) and take the time to BREATHE AND RELAX. And keep a shining smile on that face, just how i like it-and remember that things will get better if you just put the work in.

Personally i will be spending these holidays working, training (yeah because GAINZ) & with family. And if all goes well by the end of the month i will be sharing with you my finally completed Fitness and Fat Loss Guide, so…stay tuned for that! ;D

(And i will be enjoying playing some Death Stranding, too…yup.)

So as always,
Take care, and keep on bettering yourself. (AND GO READ SOME OF MY OLDER ARTICLES *COUGH COUGH*)

-V

Only you know what is best for Yourself: The reason of holiday depression

As we’re approaching the holidays, a lot of people might go into the “holiday depression” mode. I know this because in the past i experienced it, too. The feeling of not feeling enough, thoughts along these lines: “Oh great, another year is ending and i still haven’t accomplished a fucking thing. Why am i even alive?” I get it, i really do.

I can’t give you a quick fix for this, because in order to be able to feel enough, you have to BE enough. And that doesn’t come automatically like some people want you to believe, it’s the hard cold truth, but it is what it is. And the only way you can ever hope to be enough is to put in the work, in whatever area of your life that is in desperate need of it. There is no way around it.

But that doesn’t mean that any kind of work will do the trick, you have to do the work that YOU think can help you. I’m saying this because maybe, like myself, you come from a very big family where things were forced on you so that you wouldn’t “bring shame” and things like that. And even though they might hammer those things on you without (or with) a bad intention, since that’s how it worked for them they think it’ll work for you, too. They genuinely want to help.

Unfortunately you are not them, and even though going your own way might bring temporary discord and discomfort among you-i can promise that everything will feel so much better afterwards. But you have to find the will to stand up for yourself.

ATTENTION though:

Ultimately, even if that’s the case, you cannot shift the blame on others. So if you really hate your situation and hate this gnawing feeling of being useless weighing on your chest, you have to take responsibility for it and stop avoiding working on yourself, because that is the real issue. And feeling bad about this will not help you in any way, feeling sad during these times will only hinder you, the only thing to do is to accept what your current situation is, and-with a smile- PRESS ONWARD.

SEMEN RETENTION AS A MAN (BRIEF INTRO AND BENEFITS)

If you’re new or shocked by this topic i invite you to continue reading and dispel whatever thoughts you may have, instead engage in a different way to see things, you might otherwise miss what’s at the core of this argument!

What is it:
Exactly as it sounds, you avoid ejaculation in any way shape or form (no by masturbation nor sex ecc..). You keep your seed to yourself. But why do you ask?

Because as a Man, your seed is valuable.
The way I see it (and the Indian culture too) your sperm contains your life-force. In fact, semen itself is life-force. It makes sense since it’s what gives birth to life, isn’t it? Yeah, but for some people it doesn’t make sense when you talk about retaining it, why? since it’s life-force, why would you waste it blindly and thoughtlessly without actually giving birth – reproducing? you’re wasting your vitality, your potential energy, your masculinity. (as well as a lot of testosterone boys!) Ever wondered why once you’re “done” having sex or just ejaculated in general how you felt …tired? followed by a sense of relief? THAT’S YOUR ENERGY GOING DOWN THE DRAIN! …or wherever it’s going anyway. And that sense of release it’s your mind, your whole being that just said: “Well, i have done all i had to do on this earth, we’re done!” thinking that it just gave life, but you really didn’t! your mind in that way is tricked, and you somewhat feel accomplished…but you didn’t do anything, really.

Well, you did waste your energy for a brief rush of pleasure. That’s what you did.

But i don’t want you to think about this in a “spiritual” way, because that’s not the direction i’m taking. I want you to recognize it as wasted potential. Biological potential, take it as what it is, energy:

It’s like you’re wasting fuel from your car. How are you supposed to go where you’re meant to, if all you do with that fuel is wasting it on roundabouts and places you already know?

So what should you do ?

Try not releasing IT for 30 days at first, and you could see these benefits:

  • More energy overall, you will feel less tired, more excited.
  • Your skin will gain vitality.
  • More Testosterone.
  • You will feel calmer, centered.
  • Women will notice it (more prone to approach you).
  • It builds self-discipline.
  • You can redirect the sexual energy in whatever passion\project\business you have going on. (Exponential improvements in productivity.)
  • Better workouts.
  • Increased muscle gain. (not confirmed yet, at least by me)
  • You will feel more masculine in general.

These are just a few major benefits that you could experience.

And before you start discounting the whole thing, actually try this and let me know in the comments that you’re doing so. (Yeah, sounds a little creepy said it in this way i know.)

But being a man that has engaged in this i can confirm that some of these benefits i did experience! I said some because one might not experience ALL of these benefits, i guess it takes a certain amount of time, or it’s based upon the individual.

Let me know what you think about it in the comments. :]

Take care,

-V.

HOW TO DEAL WITH COPYCATS: THE QUICK WAY

Aaaaah…copycats. Aren’t they lovely? at least once in life everyone had one on their necks…may it be for something “lighter” like copying your style and how you speak, or something “heavy” like full-on copying your personality and way of life. Maybe some of you STILL have one that’s bothering you and can’t seem to shake off no matter how much time passes. Worry not, i’m going to explain you why you needn’t worry about them.

Let’s start by saying that usually, copycats that “matters” are somewhat close to you, they’re usually friends and family but they can even be simple acquaintances. What the copycat is doing is trying to get an overall idea of what you’re doing so he\she can copy you…exactly, they don’t even bother digging in. After all the only thing they care about is to APPEAR as good as you, when in reality they’re not. That’s why usually their facades tend to last a little while. This is the standard copycat. Just forget about him\her and go on with your life (this remains true even with business copycats), this kind of copycat will have a “short life”, just wait and see.

Then there’s another form of copycat that it’s a little more extreme and it’s actually very annoying and can be frustrating to have around. This one will be probably someone very close to you like a friend – and they usually use the deep bond they’ve formed with you to get to know you better so they can pull off a well crafted act. At first this person may look like he\she’s admiring you or really likes you when in reality it’s just trying to mimic you because of a simple fact:

These people LACK personality.
And that’s why you shouldn’t be concerned.

Because after a while, people around them (and you) will start noticing this, too!

I know, it’s frustrating at first, but see it like this – they decided to copy you in the first place because you are original and unique! it’s not like they can reproduce your awesomeness just by a mere act, originality it’s something that CANNOT BE COPIED. THAT’S WHY IT’S CALLED LIKE THIS. No matter how hard they try, they’ll look like fools.

Just distance yourself from these people and keep on doing you. You’ll forget them in a matter of hours! you have to be ruthless with the distancing though, the more reason to do so in the case of a family member doing this. You HAVE to make them feel like something’s not right – and that they will gain nothing by trying to emulate your persona.

Because in the end the only people that are TRULY appreciated are the ones that can stay true to themselves and don’t have the need to be someone else to be accepted.

ARE VIDEO GAMES REALLY BAD FOR YOU AND YOUR SUCCESS IN LIFE?

Aaaah, Games, you either love them or hate them.
There is always a big fuss when it comes if they’re bad for you or your kids, you would think they’re just a waste of time right? IT DEPENDS, Let’s find out.

The fact is that video games have a lot of negative aspects to them IF misused… but you’ll be surprised to know that normally, the things a video game can do for you are more positive than anything. Now, i might be a little bit biased, because i play games since i was 5 years old, i started with the NES and then followed up with every major (and minor) console that came out, as well as some PC gaming, and surprise surprise i’m a game developer, too! so i think i know a bit of stuff when it comes to the argument.

Let’s start with one of my favorite topics, SUCCESS & BUSINESS!

One would think that playing videogames automatically means that the person doing so is a failure and would imagine a guy\kid locking himself up in a dark room for hours and hours, discounting all kind of social interactions and physical activity (and personal hygiene, yuck!) that surely would benefit him, but i can tell you that is not ALWAYS the case.

Along with the 3rd, this 2nd Mega Man game might be my one of my favorite games of all time.

If you ask me what of my personality i value most, i would answer with: Resilience. And my ability to do hard things and be in stressful situations and environments. And would you believe me if i said that said skill\trait is something i acquired and then polished – while playing videogames? Exactly, that’s how.

My interminable and frustrating runs at Megaman, my adventures while playing Metroid, Ghosts’n goblins, Dragon Quest, all the difficult bosses and situations that i faced in these and endless other games helped me develop something very important…

BEING ACCUSTOMED TO FAILURE.

I’ve practiced FAILING and RETRYING in a “safe” space\environment, in which failing didn’t really matter as much as failing in real life, my defeats didn’t actually kill me, leave me jobless or without a roof upon my head, instead they forged me and gave me the WILL to try again and again, approaching every single enemy and situation with a different mindset and way of seeing things! and now i have incredible assets that are keeping me from feeling defeated, lost or demotivated when i fail at something – be it minor or major – in life.

I encourage you to pick up some of these (or other) games and actually give them a chance in your spare time, and see how much you can learn from them ABOUT YOU, and YOUR LIMITS.

So please, before categorizing videogames as “dangerous” in any way, shape or form, approach the whole argument with an open mind and the will to learn from something that is not actually “real” and see how many concrete and positive things these virtual experiences can give you, because it’s not just a training to real life, games can help people to cope with depression and\or bad feelings overall as well as narrate beautiful stories in an engaging way – in a way that only videogames can do.

Until next time,
Take care.

-V

THE CHANCES YOU (DIDN’T) TAKE.

Did you know that a really low number of people make decisions that are fully made by themselves?

You may think that can’t be true, but most people find difficult staying true to themselves when it comes to choices and in life, and this happens mostly because they fall to the pressure of their peers, their family, friends or even strangers – in my book this is a symptom of a low\absent self-esteem and nonexistent beliefs.

Of course this could pass as a lack of decision-making skills, too! but as human beings and in society we are most aware when it comes to other’s judgment and the way they see us. Though this lack can be reconnected to a low self-esteem that comes by not having a clear direction or goal in life. Think at all the chances you may have missed for having temporized or stuttered when making a decision – be it for fear of other’s judgement or for not having the courage to throw yourself into something seemingly bigger than you.

“I could have my dream life right now… IF ONLY!

Yeah, right.
How about we start actually doing that?

I’ll give you an exercise:
The next time you happen to dine in a restaurant along with your spouse, parents, or a group of friends – try to be the first that knows what you’re going to eat, and when you can do that give yourself a pat on the back because you’re on the road to improvement. You can implement this kind of mindset even when you’re at the grocery store buying stuff for the week, or deciding which shortcut to take when going home, the possibilities are endless.

Of course this is just a warm up for the bigger decisions you will have to take in life, but the next time you have to take such action be prepared and sure on what to do so you won’t miss AGAIN the best chance at your disposal for whatever it’ll happen. And here i will share you on another little secret…

Be sure to have a dream.

Because when you do, you will see that most decisions in life will come automatically AND without regret because your subconscious mind will be choosing the best course of action to reach your dream.

Take care,

-V.

QUIET IS IN YOU, JUST LISTEN TO IT.

Sometimes in life there are things that CANNOT be dealt with thought and being active. By “being active” i don’t mean not taking action, because that’s something i go against in this blog and in life – but instead what i mean is to let things cease to exist for a brief period of time

In a way in which you can temporarily forget your current challenge and focus, on being silent and still – in this way all of your emotions will slowly leak out of your body and mind, and as a consequence you will be able to experience tranquility and the ability to tackle that challenge again but this time with a clear and THINKING MIND – not a chaotic and OVERTHINKING one. Stepping aside to take time to realize the situation for what actually is and not letting your emotions control you, it’s the first step to solve that situation.

But how can you do that? well, there are multiple ways…
My favorites:

  • Dropping everything and going for a walk in nature possibly
  • Taking some time alone to sip on something hot, like tea
  • Working out like a monster!

But the one i rely the most on is Meditation.

That, is the only way for you to go deeper and feel the “nothingness” you so desperately crave and need to solve your challenges. And trust me, after you get the hang of it and your session is over you will feel nothing but good feelings, and a clearer and lucid mind overall.
So take some time for yourself, relax your whole body and take a few deep breaths while trying to adjust your breathing in a way that remains deep effortlessly. But then again, meditation is very personal and you need to incorporate it in your life before you will see results, but when you do… the shift you’re going to feel is going to be…

LIFECHANGING.


Take care, and tell me what you think about this.