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The Current Disruption between relationships.

The thought that relationships are being somewhat disrupted- be it by society’s “new” norms, by paranoid thoughts or by even nothingness has been knocking on the doors of my mind. Because it seems that NOBODY is able to give without expecting something in return. And why would they, right? we only think of our own gain – truly, we are selfish creatures now more than ever.

Lately i’ve been seing on the web, and in my everyday life, that always more standards are being enforced on males and females when it comes to relationships (romantic and not)- or should i say rules, ways to act to gain whatever you need from the other person.

“Act like this so he will miss you, act like that so that she will give you a blowjob, say that thing so the others in the group will validate you” And so on. I honestly find all of this pathetic.

This is basically how you annihilate your personality and close yourself off from any TRUE bond.

Why? because you’re no longer trying to form a fucking connection with that individual, instead you’re looking to GAIN something from them- don’t get me wrong, it’s not inherently bad to gain something from a relationship- but when ALL THAT YOU’RE LOOKING FOR is to gain, then i think there’s something out of place in the way we think of connections with others. You’re not acting like yourself anymore, you are just wearing a mask so that you are able to manipulate someone else in getting you the things you need, that’s why most relationships are short lived nowadays- do you think this approach can work long-term with another human being? HELL NO.

And while we can keep being scared because of our past traumas and bad experiences we must understand that the only way to stop shallowness from seeping into our society is to hold onto meaningful values (that are oh-so badly seen) that have been around for centuries and actually open ourselves to others while being SELFLESS! that’s the only way to let your unique character shine through all of this indifference we have sadly being accustomed to. Playing games with each other needs to go out of fashion.

And that is, in my opinion, the only way to a real connected world.

MASCULINITY AND THE POWER TO OVERCOME

My last article ended with a quote from a person whom i admire very much, Bruce Lee, and i thought that linking him to today’s topic was a thing i felt it was right. Bruce, in my book – is a perfect example of Masculinity : He was an overall achiever, he had objectives on which he never gave up (The acting career) and he was, and probably still is the greatest Martial Artist the world has ever known.

Masculinity today, at times it’s seen like a (and let me put emphasis on the quotes) “”Toxic”” trait. I personally completely disagree with that, as it is something that’s intrinsic to the very nature of a man, how can something we’re born with be toxic? and apart from that, masculinity is a very strong and positive force, Men are moved because of it, are inspired to do good because of it, they take ACTION to better their (and other’s!) life because of it. I will link you to a channel that explains this in a very good way – it’s a short video but it’s full of meaning when confronted with a lot of stupid nonsense some people are spouting nowadays. Watch it if you have time :

Now, why do i link masculinity with Bruce Lee though? well, i personally think that when a Man rises against all odds to realize something that’s really important for him – that’s when he really shines. Bruce was the peak of human strength and performance, but he didn’t accomplish all of this overnight, of course – behind his success there’s a tortuous and long process with which he achieved his strength. While he simply liked to stay in shape but more importantly to Fight, in this way he wanted to show others (but first and foremost he did this for himself, to better its abilities) that he was better at it – you know, some good competition that gave as a fruit the obvious, sought after byproduct of Mastery.

And here comes the good part :

But why does a man put himself into so much trouble to accomplish something? you’d think it’s just to satisfy himself right?

Yes…
BUT NO.

While Martial arts can be seen as destructive, some Men (and Women, even though these traits are more prominent in Men) teach them not to just “be stronger” which in itself is a consequence – but to Protect something, someone, dear to them.
The rising of certain characteristics such as Heroism, Selflessness, Sacrifice, Kindness, Relentlessness – always spurs because of a greater reason that you can’t see on the surface, martial arts it’s just an example very dear to me, but there are countless different situations – as you’ve seen in the video – where masculinity can be applied to.

In the end, i don’t think that masculinity should be overwhelmed with attacks that won’t really go anywhere, as it’s not synonym of violence, as some degenerates love to claim.

Like femininity, masculinity it’s simply a collection of traits found since the birth of human beings, into men. For either sexes to not express themselves like nature programmed them to, it’s foolish and unnatural in my honest opinion, and what REALLY should be “condemned” it’s the toxicity of an individual itself. No one, and i repeat : NO ONE should be attacked and belittled for expressing these beautiful qualities that makes humanity – Human.

If you’d like to join into this peaceful and constructive conversation, please DO comment below. I’d love to know what you think of the matter and of this article.

Have a great day!
Take care.